FRIENDS our best friends, our intimate friends, confidantes, soul mates, allies, comrades, companions, buddies, chums, partners, mates or pals

"Friends are like melons: 

Shall I tell you Why? 

To find one good one, 

a hundred try "

Claude Mermet

In recent times we there has been an emphasis on  "friends  and friendships " and the accumulation of a excessive numbers of  'Friends'. that past decades may not have experienced to such a degree.  

The friend revolution first began in my family from watching the ever popular TV series FRIENDS always must see in our household. Friends  has continued to bring hours of joy and laughter to my family - we still get together and throw on a friends my son still watches Friends DVD whenever we can.  The show epitomises the close friend's group household with many funny moments and situations - a great laugh.

Then of course came social media, and Facebook with its obsession with the number of "friends" one can acquire

We pick up or " find friends " for our social media sites, from work, family members and extended family, people who are away overseas, acquaintenances, friends from school and Uni, work friends,  relatives, neighbours, friends from the past and everyone new that we meet and then friends of friends of friends. We tweet, chat, skype, like, share, follow, call, text and email to keep in touch with them all.

Many an article has been written about whether these constitute true friends and how many friends is it possible to maintain in a lifetime?  I wonder though are they really your  true Friends and what is a friend really?

I've had my share of interest, success and involvement in all ways of making friends and celebrating the idea and essence of friendship from interest groups, networking through work, courses, clubs, work situations, family friends,community groups,  online dating and friendship sites and more. 






The expression "Strangers are friends we have not met yet" has never been so true as it is now.  
I have had the good fortune or providence to have what I perceive to be a truly great best friend our  friendship has stood the test of time through good times, ups and downs of life to become a strong mutually satisfying bond for life. Someone who knows you better than you know yourself.

New friends still in the exhilaration of  experimenting, learning about each other, enjoying the surprises of what makes two people tick as friends.

What we enjoy about one another and what each one brings to the friendship is a fascinating game filled with excitement  and so much fun.

My intuition is fairly good so I can see a time when new friends will have  become great friends because life has to be experienced first and friendships nurtured through our living.

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So whether you meet online, in unusual chance meetings, or at work or mutual interest groups and pastimes its the passage of  time that tells whether our friends are what I consider to be the meaning of  TRUE FRIENDS.

True friends are based on selflessness they accept differences, support strengths and weaknesses and I believe  to have even one true friend in a lifetime is a major blessing.

Because its the trust and strong bond that develops over time that endures distance and life's up and downs but does not affect the quality of the  friendship at all

A true friend can walk in after years or months away and the friendship is right there where it was - a magic relationship. Where either person in the bond would not think twice if one of them was in trouble or needed help and in fact would probably know already, this friendship never fades but thrives on trust, mutual admiration, inspiration and comfort.

I am lucky to have a few close friends but one in particular that I know a mere hello on the phone can be answered by " tell me " because best friends can sense, listen and understand ones silence sometimes knowing before you do yourself.

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How fortunate am I to  know someone that is completely comfortable to be with - my best friend.

How do we nurture and acquire truly good friends and more importantly how do we spontaneously develop good friends without it being an artificial thing You can't make yourself into what you think others may find attractive its all about being honest with yourself and being You.

Of course, if we are fortunate, our children can become our best friends and know you on this level too.

There is nothing sweeter in life than to be rewarded after the nurturing and sacrifice needed in rearing children to end up with them as your close friends. A group of people who enjoy your company and want to spend time with you and become your other best friends.

So, when you meet new people enjoy all the moments of the initial spark as your own hint to the possible deep friendship that may develop.  The mutual joy of contact and being together, thinking about them as you become friends, being attentive to keeping in touch, listening, giving and sharing but best of all fun, laughter and humor all go to  make lasting friendship

"The only way to have a friend is to be ONE"

      Ralph Waldo Emerson